1 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:44,040 Our aim is to bring you the real secrets of sensational sex and lovemaking. 2 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:48,780 We want to help you have great sex and the confidence to know you are good in 3 00:00:48,780 --> 00:00:51,040 bed. Learn how to have vocal sex. 4 00:00:51,460 --> 00:00:56,680 Open up your heart and talk sexily to one another to help remove inhibitions. 5 00:00:56,780 --> 00:01:00,900 Although you may feel silly or embarrassed, try saying what you would 6 00:01:00,900 --> 00:01:06,220 like. You will soon find talking sexily comes naturally and is intensely 7 00:01:06,220 --> 00:01:08,540 arousing. Open up. 8 00:01:08,950 --> 00:01:11,050 Try saying what you'd really like. 9 00:01:11,930 --> 00:01:16,690 Ring each other during the day or send emails and describe what you want to do 10 00:01:16,690 --> 00:01:19,490 to your lover that night. Write each other love notes. 11 00:01:25,370 --> 00:01:30,890 Experiment with fantasy and masturbation to discover your own on -button and 12 00:01:30,890 --> 00:01:33,130 encourage your partner to do the same. 13 00:01:34,870 --> 00:01:38,390 Nothing ensures a great night as much as building... 14 00:01:40,270 --> 00:01:45,430 Give love tokens, such as chocolates, perfume, flowers, or sexy underwear, to 15 00:01:45,430 --> 00:01:49,790 show your partner you've been thinking of them, just because you love them, not 16 00:01:49,790 --> 00:01:52,450 because there is an anniversary or birthday to celebrate. 17 00:01:54,070 --> 00:01:58,750 Planning a sexy night in together can help build the anticipation and heighten 18 00:01:58,750 --> 00:01:59,750 your enjoyment. 19 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:09,139 Allowing your emotions free reign before, during and after sex can enhance 20 00:02:09,139 --> 00:02:11,200 lovemaking and bring you closer together. 21 00:02:12,700 --> 00:02:17,460 Feel good about yourself and your body. No one pleases all the people all of the 22 00:02:17,460 --> 00:02:22,020 time, so make sure you feel good about yourself and that your partner does too. 23 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:29,460 Doubts about yourself can be self -fulfilling and now men too are getting 24 00:02:29,460 --> 00:02:30,429 the act. 25 00:02:30,430 --> 00:02:34,130 There is nothing so trusting as a man allowing his girlfriend to shave his 26 00:02:34,130 --> 00:02:39,270 scrotum. Men nowadays may also trim back their pubes, shave their chest and look 27 00:02:39,270 --> 00:02:40,710 at other areas to remove hair. 28 00:02:43,030 --> 00:02:47,250 Everyone seems to accept that women need a fair amount of stimulation to become 29 00:02:47,250 --> 00:02:48,250 fully aroused. 30 00:02:49,530 --> 00:02:52,310 But men can be equally responsive to stimulation. 31 00:02:53,850 --> 00:02:58,330 The special areas that respond to such stimulation are called erogenous zones. 32 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:11,340 The erogenous zones are sensitive areas of skin packed with extra nerve endings. 33 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:16,160 When these are stimulated in the right way, they trigger sensual feelings and 34 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:18,880 act as shortcuts to full -blown arousal. 35 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:24,180 The major erogenous zones include all the obvious side effects. 36 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:30,080 Take turns to explore, stimulate and arouse each other. 37 00:03:30,430 --> 00:03:35,110 As well as fondling, squeezing, sucking, nibbling and even biting these 38 00:03:35,110 --> 00:03:39,410 sensitive areas, try also wetting them and blowing them dry. 39 00:03:42,010 --> 00:03:46,450 Try a range of different textures, velvets, fake fur, silk. 40 00:03:55,530 --> 00:03:57,410 Try eating food of one another. 41 00:03:59,880 --> 00:04:02,220 Much better than having a big meal before sex. 42 00:04:13,580 --> 00:04:16,620 So enjoy your own body and each other's. 43 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:25,300 You could also try deeper and shallower penetration with one or more fingers. 44 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:36,280 Try tugging on the labia or 45 00:04:36,280 --> 00:04:40,680 using circular motions while stimulating yourself. 46 00:04:46,500 --> 00:04:50,880 Men can try varying the grip and speed of how they stimulate themselves. 47 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:56,020 See if rubbing the ligaments in the abdomen just above the penile root does 48 00:04:56,020 --> 00:04:57,020 anything for you. 49 00:04:57,530 --> 00:05:01,110 Try stimulating your perineum and fumbling your balls. 50 00:05:02,930 --> 00:05:07,290 Stimulate other erogenous zones, such as tweaking your nipples, as arousal 51 00:05:07,290 --> 00:05:09,530 builds, and particularly at the point of orgasm. 52 00:05:12,190 --> 00:05:16,630 It's also a time to practice flipping a well -lubricated finger into your anus, 53 00:05:16,630 --> 00:05:20,910 and perhaps starting to develop this as another pleasure area, before you let 54 00:05:20,910 --> 00:05:21,910 anyone else try. 55 00:05:31,170 --> 00:05:35,730 Explore different feelings to give yourself a more sensational orgasm. For 56 00:05:35,730 --> 00:05:41,470 example, try tensing your muscles, particularly pelvic floor, and relaxing 57 00:05:41,470 --> 00:05:42,670 near the point of climax. 58 00:05:44,350 --> 00:05:47,290 Take ten deep breaths near the point of orgasm. 59 00:05:52,210 --> 00:05:54,330 Try masturbating in different places. 60 00:05:54,550 --> 00:05:59,190 It adds a free song to be playing with yourself in places you normally 61 00:05:59,390 --> 00:06:00,450 or don't feel you should. 62 00:06:04,730 --> 00:06:08,890 To add an extra dimension of fantasy while you masturbate, try getting your 63 00:06:08,890 --> 00:06:10,190 partner to spy on you. 64 00:06:10,550 --> 00:06:14,890 It may help you feel less inhibited in what you do and is bound to be a huge 65 00:06:14,890 --> 00:06:16,590 turn on for your partner too. 66 00:06:29,330 --> 00:06:32,930 Masturbation in front of one another not only says that you feel very 67 00:06:32,930 --> 00:06:37,350 comfortable and uninhibited together, but also allows your partner to discover 68 00:06:37,350 --> 00:06:39,350 what you like and how you do it. 69 00:06:44,410 --> 00:06:49,010 While sex should not be goal -orientated, one thing you could aim to 70 00:06:49,010 --> 00:06:51,590 masturbate your partner better than they can do it for themselves. 71 00:07:06,190 --> 00:07:10,370 Men need to learn all about how the woman likes her clitoris stimulated. 72 00:07:10,650 --> 00:07:13,230 Is it too sensitive for a direct approach? 73 00:07:13,610 --> 00:07:16,550 If so, rub at the side and the ridge above. 74 00:07:18,030 --> 00:07:21,390 Does she like a lighter or stronger stroke? 75 00:07:21,650 --> 00:07:25,950 How fast? Does she like the pressure, pace and rhythm to be varied? 76 00:07:28,970 --> 00:07:33,250 Only she can truly guide you, as another secret you need to know is that the 77 00:07:33,250 --> 00:07:36,030 clitoris changes in sensitivity at arousal peaks. 78 00:07:39,130 --> 00:07:43,990 Some women may want firmer, faster stimulation, while others prefer a 79 00:07:44,030 --> 00:07:45,030 more gentle cut. 80 00:07:49,150 --> 00:07:53,730 Sensitivity can also change from day to day, and from orgasm to orgasm. 81 00:07:57,610 --> 00:08:01,890 You can also explore whether she likes to be penetrated with your fingers, and 82 00:08:01,890 --> 00:08:03,030 if so, how many. 83 00:08:07,570 --> 00:08:11,750 Continuous downwards movement feels like deeper and deeper penetration to him, 84 00:08:11,850 --> 00:08:14,190 and will soon have him writhing in ecstasy. 85 00:08:21,870 --> 00:08:25,890 For more advanced masturbation, you can even use the end of his penis to 86 00:08:25,890 --> 00:08:27,310 stimulate your clitoris. 87 00:08:31,010 --> 00:08:33,789 You'll usually find it brings him off as well. 88 00:08:42,169 --> 00:08:46,890 You can also try getting him to lie on his back with you on top, then rub your 89 00:08:46,890 --> 00:08:50,110 clitoris and labia backwards and forwards over his penis. 90 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:53,300 though you'll probably need lots of lubricant for this. 91 00:08:55,340 --> 00:08:59,700 One of the sensational secrets of mutual masturbation is the three -finger 92 00:08:59,700 --> 00:09:03,820 technique in which you gently stimulate her clitoris, vagina and anus together. 93 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:08,900 This drives many women wild. 94 00:09:09,220 --> 00:09:13,820 Not every woman likes having her anus stimulated, however, so experiment to 95 00:09:13,820 --> 00:09:14,840 what goes down well. 96 00:09:19,690 --> 00:09:25,450 One secret known to advanced lovers is the G -spot, a controversial, erogenous 97 00:09:25,450 --> 00:09:29,290 zone named after its discoverer, Ernest Rastenberg. 98 00:09:29,790 --> 00:09:34,470 It is a button -like area of tissue on the front wall of the vagina that swells 99 00:09:34,470 --> 00:09:39,970 during sexual arousal. When the G -spot is stimulated and gently pressed, it can 100 00:09:39,970 --> 00:09:42,690 trigger a rapid and intense orgasm. 101 00:09:42,990 --> 00:09:46,670 Hunting the G -spot is an erotic game you can both play. 102 00:09:48,010 --> 00:09:52,050 To look for the female G -spot, your partner should lie on her back with her 103 00:09:52,050 --> 00:09:55,230 knees bent and apart, while you kneel between her legs. 104 00:09:55,490 --> 00:10:00,770 Using lubrication, insert your index finger two to three inches into her 105 00:10:03,190 --> 00:10:07,110 Make a beckoning gesture when her vagina actually expands or balloons during 106 00:10:07,110 --> 00:10:10,010 arousal. It's not as tight as you might imagine. 107 00:10:10,250 --> 00:10:13,650 It is only the vaginal entrance that tightens as arousal increases. 108 00:10:22,730 --> 00:10:25,570 The male G -spot lies in his prostate gland. 109 00:10:26,370 --> 00:10:30,850 Some men love having this stimulated while others find it strange at first 110 00:10:30,850 --> 00:10:32,430 may take time to enjoy it. 111 00:10:32,710 --> 00:10:37,270 The only way to find out if he likes it or not is to gently try and see how you 112 00:10:37,270 --> 00:10:42,610 go. But do make sure your fingernail is short and use plenty of lubrication. 113 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:52,600 So masturbation is an activity everyone should practice. 114 00:10:57,200 --> 00:11:00,020 It has all sorts of benefits when you do it. 115 00:11:04,180 --> 00:11:07,980 And is an important part of your sexual repertoire with your partner. 116 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:24,420 Sex is a huge compliment to one another. The ultimate acceptance of our most 117 00:11:24,420 --> 00:11:28,500 intimate parts and a powerful involvement with our most personal 118 00:11:29,540 --> 00:11:34,580 Nature has designed your body's face, hair and odors as a turn -on for your 119 00:11:34,580 --> 00:11:35,580 partner. 120 00:11:37,780 --> 00:11:40,540 Don't be embarrassed about the way you look or smell. 121 00:11:41,260 --> 00:11:45,120 Get to know your partner's unique body smells, which contain pheromones, 122 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:49,760 powerful sexual attractants that activate your heart and instincts to 123 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:50,760 you closer together. 124 00:11:56,460 --> 00:12:01,160 All sex should be seen as one of the most pleasuring things one can do for 125 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:06,380 another, and empowering to you in giving you control over their sensations and 126 00:12:06,380 --> 00:12:07,380 arousal. 127 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:11,180 Let it be as big a turn -on for the giver as the receiver. 128 00:12:12,260 --> 00:12:16,120 Realize that far from being demeaning, it gives you the power to control the 129 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:18,780 sensations and pleasures felt by your partner. 130 00:12:22,100 --> 00:12:23,940 Don't worry too much about hygiene. 131 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:28,440 As long as people bathe regularly and have no infection, it is relatively 132 00:12:28,820 --> 00:12:32,940 If you prefer, you can include washing your partner as part of your pre -oral 133 00:12:32,940 --> 00:12:33,940 sexual technique. 134 00:12:36,720 --> 00:12:42,380 As for semen, it is mostly a slightly salty tasting mixture of simple proteins 135 00:12:42,380 --> 00:12:45,080 and sugars, which will do no harm when swallowed. 136 00:12:45,560 --> 00:12:49,960 It is up to you whether you want him to come in your mouth, however, and if he 137 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:51,560 does, whether you want to swallow. 138 00:12:51,980 --> 00:12:53,960 You could wipe it away with a tissue. 139 00:12:57,180 --> 00:13:01,640 When it splashes on the back of your throat, it will trigger a natural 140 00:13:01,640 --> 00:13:04,880 swallowing reflex, which you need to know about. 141 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:10,520 Don't be surprised by its warmth and how small an amount it is. Only around half 142 00:13:10,520 --> 00:13:13,820 a teaspoon, not the gallons you might expect from porn flicks. 143 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:20,900 If you are fine with oral sex but don't want him to come in your mouth, bring 144 00:13:20,900 --> 00:13:23,620 him to the brink, then finish him off with your hand. 145 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:28,640 Do try, though, by tasting a little bit to overcome any revulsion you might 146 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:29,640 feel. 147 00:13:30,100 --> 00:13:32,880 All sorts of techniques can be used in oral sex. 148 00:13:35,700 --> 00:13:39,200 Lick all over the whole area to give your partner an intimate tongue bath. 149 00:13:40,680 --> 00:13:44,020 The rim of the helmet or glands and the ridge or frenulum. 150 00:13:44,620 --> 00:13:47,600 Underneath at the back are the most sensitive parts of the penis. 151 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:53,160 While the clitoris and surrounding areas are usually the most sensitive parts of 152 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:54,059 a woman. 153 00:13:54,060 --> 00:13:59,380 Try first flicking the tip of the tongue on the clitoris or women to men on the 154 00:13:59,380 --> 00:14:00,380 frenulum. 155 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:14,580 Another secret here is for the man to keep his tongue still and let the woman 156 00:14:14,580 --> 00:14:18,580 rub against it at her own pace and pressure to give herself maximum 157 00:14:20,500 --> 00:14:25,340 You can also try getting him to hum on your clitoris, like a human vibrator. 158 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:32,140 One well -kept secret of oral sex is just how fantastic sucking can be for 159 00:14:32,140 --> 00:14:33,680 partner instead of simply licking. 160 00:14:34,180 --> 00:14:38,160 Do cover your teeth with your lips so you don't accidentally bite these 161 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:39,160 sensitive areas. 162 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:44,740 You can take the entire clitoris and inner labia into your mouth and gently 163 00:14:44,740 --> 00:14:48,460 off. The clitoris with your tongue is an art, as it can be so delicate and 164 00:14:48,460 --> 00:14:52,900 sensitive. Most women, for example, prefer downwards rather than upwards 165 00:14:52,900 --> 00:14:55,920 movements, so experiment to see what she likes best. 166 00:14:56,600 --> 00:15:00,040 Try circular movements of the tongue all around the clitoris. 167 00:15:10,830 --> 00:15:15,270 Use your hands as well as your tongue. Try palming her vulva and as you lick, 168 00:15:15,350 --> 00:15:19,870 use a long, slow, continuous finger -over -finger technique on either side 169 00:15:19,870 --> 00:15:20,870 the clitoris. 170 00:15:33,630 --> 00:15:38,710 Many women like having their vaginal entrance gently stretched during oral 171 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:43,780 by inserting a finger. Try inserting two fingers and opening them slightly to 172 00:15:43,780 --> 00:15:44,780 stretch the entrance. 173 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:46,480 She may even want more. 174 00:15:46,920 --> 00:15:51,580 Women can also try gripping their thighs together for greater friction and 175 00:15:51,580 --> 00:15:54,060 making him have to dig deeper with his tongue. 176 00:16:13,260 --> 00:16:17,500 For mutual oral sex, sweat on nerve, the 69 position, is the best known. 177 00:16:22,740 --> 00:16:25,640 Lie facing one another in the sweat on nerve position. 178 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:31,480 Using lubrication, gently place the pad of your index finger against his anus 179 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:34,000 and gently push so it slips inside. 180 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:39,780 Gently and slowly advance your finger two to three inches up the front wall 181 00:16:39,780 --> 00:16:42,480 until you feel a fatness penis in her mouth. 182 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:45,620 while he has open access to lick her at the same time. 183 00:16:51,300 --> 00:16:56,540 A more advanced position for mutual oral sex is the Big O, which gives you both 184 00:16:56,540 --> 00:17:00,320 improved access for simultaneous oral and manual stimulation. 185 00:17:11,550 --> 00:17:15,490 For the superstitious and adventurous, the vertical 69 position is worth 186 00:17:15,770 --> 00:17:18,670 although you are unlikely to be able to keep this up for long. 187 00:17:22,270 --> 00:17:26,710 Remember, oral sex is the real way of showing your partner how intimately you 188 00:17:26,710 --> 00:17:32,070 are involved with them, and how much you appreciate the most private parts of 189 00:17:32,070 --> 00:17:33,070 their body. 190 00:17:59,380 --> 00:18:02,860 Particularly for intercourse, the importance of safe sex cannot be 191 00:18:02,860 --> 00:18:06,860 underestimated. Unless you are in a long -term relationship and know your 192 00:18:06,860 --> 00:18:09,940 partner's sexual history, you really should use condoms. 193 00:18:13,520 --> 00:18:18,080 The secret of realizing your full orgasmic potential in intercourse, or 194 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:22,320 your climaxes deeper, stronger and longer, is to take all the time you 195 00:18:23,640 --> 00:18:27,520 Your partner has at least one climax before he enters her. 196 00:18:37,550 --> 00:18:41,790 Some women need a helping hand, their own or their man's, to bring them off 197 00:18:41,790 --> 00:18:42,810 during intercourse. 198 00:18:46,370 --> 00:18:51,270 At birth, he may need continued clitoral stimulation with his hand too. 199 00:18:52,450 --> 00:18:56,970 This is most easily done if you both lie curled side by side facing the same 200 00:18:56,970 --> 00:18:57,970 way. 201 00:18:58,050 --> 00:19:02,850 He should be able to reach over and gently stimulate her clitoris with one 202 00:19:02,850 --> 00:19:05,150 while inserting his penis from behind. 203 00:19:06,060 --> 00:19:09,880 Some women prefer penetration only to occur at the point of climax. 204 00:19:10,420 --> 00:19:14,800 Others prefer to feel uterus with one hand using a good amount of lubrication. 205 00:19:17,140 --> 00:19:22,300 Women on top positions let her gain control and can be extremely satisfying 206 00:19:22,300 --> 00:19:23,300 both of you. 207 00:19:24,380 --> 00:19:29,620 By moving up and down and varying the speed and depth of penetration, she can 208 00:19:29,620 --> 00:19:32,780 set her own pace and reach orgasm more easily. 209 00:19:43,150 --> 00:19:47,690 If you feel she's going too fast for you, hold her hips so she knows to slow 210 00:19:47,690 --> 00:19:48,690 down a little. 211 00:19:51,210 --> 00:19:55,450 These positions are also good if the man is particularly tired and his partner 212 00:19:55,450 --> 00:19:56,590 is happy to make the effort. 213 00:20:06,490 --> 00:20:11,390 For deeper, longer, stronger sex, you can also try various techniques for 214 00:20:11,390 --> 00:20:12,390 penetration. 215 00:20:13,700 --> 00:20:18,340 Circling and semicircling thrust during penetration help to stimulate larger 216 00:20:18,340 --> 00:20:22,780 areas of the vagina and can produce exquisite sensations and orgasms. 217 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:33,620 Vary the pace and rhythm. 218 00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:38,780 Slow rhythms with alternating shallow and deep strokes can help to make her 219 00:20:38,780 --> 00:20:39,780 orgasm stronger. 220 00:20:50,890 --> 00:20:54,070 Try long, deep strokes followed by almost complete withdrawal. 221 00:20:58,910 --> 00:21:02,810 Holding his penis at the base as it moves in and out of you can really 222 00:21:02,810 --> 00:21:03,810 his pleasure. 223 00:21:06,870 --> 00:21:10,910 It can be very arousing for both of you if you slip a finger inside yourself 224 00:21:10,910 --> 00:21:13,110 while he is moving in and out of you. 225 00:21:13,490 --> 00:21:18,630 You will feel even more filled up and you can stimulate the sensitive head of 226 00:21:18,630 --> 00:21:19,630 his penis too. 227 00:21:25,130 --> 00:21:27,830 Try this position for the tightest grasp of his penis. 228 00:21:28,170 --> 00:21:32,310 She squeezes her fingers together to grip him firmly as he moves in and out. 229 00:21:32,510 --> 00:21:36,450 This position also lets her stimulate her clitoris with her hand at the same 230 00:21:36,450 --> 00:21:40,970 time and gives him access to caress her breasts, clitoris or buttocks. 231 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:54,820 A real turn -on to him is to stimulate his balls with your fingers during 232 00:21:54,820 --> 00:21:58,240 penetration and especially at the moment of ejaculation. 233 00:21:58,660 --> 00:22:01,180 The base of the penis is also quite sensitive. 234 00:22:01,700 --> 00:22:05,980 Pressing firmly against his perineum, the area between his anus and scrotum 235 00:22:05,980 --> 00:22:09,780 during penetration, will help to increase the intensity of his orgasm. 236 00:22:14,679 --> 00:22:19,520 Lubrication is a very useful sex aid for avoiding soreness, heightening arousal 237 00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:21,740 and increasing sexual sensations. 238 00:22:23,380 --> 00:22:28,620 A variety of water -based gels are available, but if you haven't any, 239 00:22:28,620 --> 00:22:29,620 provides saliva. 240 00:22:31,620 --> 00:22:35,900 Near the point of coming, there are various techniques for making your 241 00:22:35,900 --> 00:22:36,900 all the more sensational. 242 00:22:39,100 --> 00:22:42,220 Use the stop -start routine learned in masturbation. 243 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:46,580 Stop near the brink, letting your arousal subside a little, then start 244 00:22:46,900 --> 00:22:51,360 Do how long you want to linger and enjoy the pleasurable sensations your body 245 00:22:51,360 --> 00:22:55,640 can produce, and at what point you want to strive ahead for your climax. 246 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:03,820 In men, telltale signs of being near the brink include tensing of the scrotum, 247 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:07,660 thighs and abdomen, and the balls rising tight against the base of the penis. 248 00:23:12,110 --> 00:23:15,970 In women, it can often be more difficult to tell, although the clitoris will 249 00:23:15,970 --> 00:23:20,790 usually feel more engorged. Her nipples will be swollen, and though you may feel 250 00:23:20,790 --> 00:23:25,190 her vaginal muscle gripping you more tightly at the base, the upper part of 251 00:23:25,190 --> 00:23:27,570 vagina will balloon and so feel looser. 252 00:23:29,230 --> 00:23:33,970 In both men and women, breathing will become more rapid, and one in four 253 00:23:33,970 --> 00:23:37,470 develop a reddening sex flush that starts on the look something else. 254 00:23:54,510 --> 00:23:59,430 Your processes of sexual arousal are finally soon, so you need to be able to 255 00:23:59,430 --> 00:24:02,950 interpret each other's moans of pleasure to know when you're doing something the 256 00:24:02,950 --> 00:24:07,390 other likes, and equally need warning when you do something they're less 257 00:24:19,850 --> 00:24:23,390 A helping hand is often the best way of bringing you both to a simultaneous 258 00:24:23,390 --> 00:24:27,610 orgasm. But it's wise not to make coming together too much of a goal. 259 00:24:28,110 --> 00:24:32,730 Let each other know where you like being touched, either by telling her or by 260 00:24:32,730 --> 00:24:35,190 taking their fingers in yours and showing them what to do. 261 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:51,640 If you're unsure what your partner is trying to tell you, it really helps to 262 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:56,580 ask. A whispered, is that good, or do you want me to stop, will usually get 263 00:24:56,580 --> 00:24:57,580 back on track. 264 00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:04,760 If you develop the techniques that delay orgasms and make them deeper, longer 265 00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:08,700 and stronger when they do come, then you and your partner will be well on the 266 00:25:08,700 --> 00:25:11,120 way to enjoying truly sensational sex. 267 00:25:36,750 --> 00:25:41,330 Having a varied repertoire requires knowing a number of sexual positions, 268 00:25:41,330 --> 00:25:42,750 simple, some quite advanced. 269 00:25:43,190 --> 00:25:47,930 Each has benefits, usually for both partners, and different ones can be used 270 00:25:47,930 --> 00:25:49,190 different needs and occasions. 271 00:25:57,350 --> 00:26:00,810 Experimenting with the many hundreds of ways that two bodies can be intertwined 272 00:26:00,810 --> 00:26:03,190 is very arousing and great fun in itself. 273 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:13,220 So test which ones heighten pleasure for one or both of you. 274 00:26:13,420 --> 00:26:16,760 Some allow deeper penetration, improved stimulation. 275 00:26:31,360 --> 00:26:33,920 Let your imagination run away with you. 276 00:26:49,390 --> 00:26:50,890 Not to mention your body. 277 00:27:00,050 --> 00:27:04,750 And adventurously explore all the many different ways you can entwine 278 00:27:04,750 --> 00:27:09,570 in the discovery of ever more sensational sex. 279 00:27:27,500 --> 00:27:30,500 One of the great secrets of sensational sex is variety. 280 00:27:30,820 --> 00:27:34,920 One exciting way to keep bringing the changes is for you and your partner to 281 00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:36,820 think of your love life as a secret affair. 282 00:27:37,260 --> 00:27:41,180 With this way of thinking, you're unlikely to fall into the trap of doing 283 00:27:41,180 --> 00:27:45,180 same things time and time again, and let your appetites become jaded. 284 00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:49,900 Vary the time of day. 285 00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,580 Don't wait until night when you're both tired. 286 00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:54,400 Make time for sex. 287 00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:59,720 Weekends and holidays provide great opportunities but what if you both take 288 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:03,920 long lunch in bed together or a few hours off work just for the two of you? 289 00:28:06,120 --> 00:28:10,660 Vary the location all around the house or try sex outside for some added 290 00:28:10,660 --> 00:28:11,660 excitement. 291 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,060 Try rooms you've never used for sex before. 292 00:28:25,230 --> 00:28:28,330 The bathroom can be one of the most erotic rooms in the house. 293 00:28:30,850 --> 00:28:34,990 Don't just vary the setting, spend some time getting the atmosphere right. 294 00:28:47,510 --> 00:28:51,250 Using a large mirror near the bed can also increase excitement. 295 00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:55,720 and adds a voyeuristic element letting you watch each other's facial responses 296 00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:58,660 and see your partner's body from different angles. 297 00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,720 Surprise each other while watching TV. 298 00:29:18,300 --> 00:29:19,840 Try sexy clothing. 299 00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:21,720 Make love through it. 300 00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:23,000 Don't always be naked. 301 00:29:24,340 --> 00:29:29,700 Find things, books, videos, fantasies to turn you on and expand your repertoire. 302 00:29:30,220 --> 00:29:31,560 Anything that will help. 303 00:29:31,820 --> 00:29:36,220 Go to sex shops together, get their catalogues or look them up on the 304 00:29:39,980 --> 00:29:41,560 Use melting ice cubes. 305 00:29:41,820 --> 00:29:46,340 Even slip one into the vagina or anus, but make sure it is half melted first. 306 00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:03,140 One secret of advanced lovers is applying a little spearmint or 307 00:30:03,140 --> 00:30:08,180 toothpaste under the foreskin for an extra tingle. This is especially helpful 308 00:30:08,180 --> 00:30:11,820 second time round to re -stimulate an erection. 309 00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:15,480 Sex toys also have an important role to play. 310 00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:19,960 For example, vibrators have been available for years and continue to be 311 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:22,640 because they work faster than any hand or tongue. 312 00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:29,280 They can produce exquisite sensations when used around the clitoris that can 313 00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:30,960 used on all the erogenous zones. 314 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:38,080 Vibrators are not just for women. 315 00:30:38,380 --> 00:30:42,200 Use them to stimulate that will allow you to enjoy lovemaking to the full. 316 00:30:43,580 --> 00:30:47,560 The main thing, though, is to have confidence in yourself and be at ease 317 00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:48,419 your partner. 318 00:30:48,420 --> 00:30:52,550 If you have that... and are comfortable with most of the ideas you have seen you 319 00:30:52,550 --> 00:30:55,370 can be reasonably sure that you are a good lover. 320 00:30:56,170 --> 00:31:00,910 And if you take the time to expand your repertoire develop your sexuality and 321 00:31:00,910 --> 00:31:05,270 care enormously about the pleasure you can give your partner then you may even 322 00:31:05,270 --> 00:31:06,590 become a great lover.